Testimonies of women victims of violence
I was abused for 12 years, mentally and physically. My life was hell, an everyday torture. First I thought everything will pass, I was hoping that he would change, and it turned out that he changed, but the situation became worse, he was worse. When I lost hope that anything would change, I was telling myself “leave it be as it is”… Because of the children, it’s right for them to grow up with two parents. But no, having a father is not the most important thing. The most important is what kind of person their father is; the children need a healthy environment for living. I didn’t have the courage, I was afraid to leave; I was constantly under pressure and threatened to be killed. The more I tried, the more I was sinking... But there is a limit. The crucial night was when I was beaten and humiliated in front of my children, I didn’t know about myself... And then I said “ENOUGH”... That night I made the best decision in my life, I said to myself not to be afraid, I packed up and left. I have sworn that I will never come back, because I knew that if I ever come back I would have signed my own suicide. I forced myself to be strong and not give in to him, get back my confidence because now when I’m alone and have peace I know how much I value as a person. No one deserves to live a life with torture and without the slightest respect. It is not a destiny, we create our own destiny. If I waited for my own destiny, I dread to think what would have happened. Now I live alone with my children and live a normal and peaceful life as I always wished for... I’m still scared and live in fear, but I am peaceful because my children aren’t witnessing any of those events anymore... And I'm proud that I managed to protect them. Things slowly, but surely are returning to normal. It was worth that I left and I don’t regret it because I know that I and my children deserve much more and a better life than the one we had.
"I was married for 14 years and the marriage was a living hell. The days were filled with fear, if I will be beaten again that day? I decided to put an end to such a life. I left! Now I'm happy, confident and serene again!"
I was a victim in a violent relationship. I tried to leave him many times, but I kept going back to him over and over again. And then I got the wake up call. I realized that I cannot go on living in fear and wait for the next episode, whether he will stalk me outside my home, barge in at my work place… I was repeatedly circling the same circle… Well yes! The fear was the main reason that put an end to my misery. I realized that he will never change and that I do not want to re-live any of those horrible episodes. And now when time has passed I feel liberated and stronger coming out of that relationship. Without any fear I walk down the street again or entering the building where I leave. The most essential part in this story was the selfless support I got from my parents and my friends.